Shack-Up 1

Wow! Talk about becoming a piece of furniture! I might as well have been one of the table chairs!

This one did everything he could to avoid spending any time with me.

We will call this one…

Mistake #3.

I would make plans for us well in advance and he would always work late that day or have to go in for whatever reason. There was always something he had to do.

I was taking care of my mama, who had survived a stroke and has COPD.

Every time I needed someone to be there for me, I couldn’t find him anywhere.

“Where were you?”

“I took (insert name here) home.”

“I called (insert name here) and he said you left two hours ago. I could have walked to their house and back in that time.”

“I stayed and talked for a while.”

“You knew I had made plans for us.”

“We can do them tomorrow.”

“No. We can’t. I can’t get someone to stay with mama.”

“What do you want me to do?”

“Not a (insert curse word here) thing!”

“I don’t know why you’re mad. It’s not like they were important plans.”

With this, I would shut up and go about my evening and night as if he didn’t exist.

How can someone be so disrespectful? Why would someone put up with it?

I needed his income. We had a thousand dollars in bills every month and mama only made $750.00.

Is there no in between? Why do I always find the one that wants nothing to do with me or the one that has the insane idea that I’m cheating with everything within a fifty-mile radius?

Then, I was informed of what he was doing. He had returned to his previous activities. I was not only heartbroken, but I was furious!

I don’t know if he cheated or not. He says he didn’t. Everyone else says he did. I don’t know.

I threw him out. There was no way I was going to continue to have that kind of activity around my mama.

I cried for an entire month. I was inconsolable. My new best friend was by my side the whole time. She wanted to beat him to death for what he did to me.

Then, the bills came in.

Rent: Two months behind.

Electric: Three months behind.

Water: Overdue.

Gas: Three months behind.

Auto Insurance: Cancelled due to lack of payment.


I had a mental breakdown. Mama went to a nursing home and I went to a mental hospital.

When I came out, I had no place to go but the trailer he and I had bought together.

For the next three years, we had to learn to live on the same property without being together.