Wow! You would not believe the difference. By the time it was over, he had knocked out my four front teeth and made my workplace a drive thru. I worked in a nursing home, so it wasn’t a good thing!
We’ll call him…
I don’t remember how I met him, but I remember our first date.
He knocked on the door of my friends house. I was staying with them at the time. As I went to answer the door, their friend decided he was going to leave.
I opened the door and their friend walked out, I greeted him and he said, “Who the hell was that?”
“A friend of theirs.” I said, stepping out the door.
“If we are going to see each other, you can’t be seeing other men.” he said.
I should have turned around and went right back in the house.
“Okay.” I said and continued down the walk.
I got in the drivers side of my truck. Yeah. He didn’t have a vehicle.
“I’m serious.” he said.
“I’m sure you are.” I said, waiting for him to close the passenger door.
“If you’re going to see other men, I need to know so I can leave right now.” he said.
“Look, I said okay. What more you do you want?” I said.
“Fine. Let’s go to the bar.” he said. “I want to play pool.”
I should have got out of the truck and went back in the house.
I drove us to the bar and sat there, bored all night, watching him play pool with his friends.
A few days later, you’ll never guess what he did. You guessed it!
“I know you’re cheating on me.” he said.
We were watching tv.
“Am I having a good time?” I said.
I didn’t think he was serious.
“Do you care about me at all?” he said, getting up from the couch. “I just told you I know you’re cheating on me and you didn’t even deny it!”
“It doesn’t matter if I deny it or not, you’ve already made up your mind.” I said. “Hell, you’ve already judged me guilty.”
“I’m leaving.” he said.
He left for two days, then he came back and apologized.
I took him back.
A week later, we had the same discussion. This time it turned violent and we both had bruises. I have no fear.
Three weeks after that, we repeated the same performance. For the next year, it became a weekly thing.
Then, valentines day rolled around. I made a romantic dinner, sent the kids to the sitter and waited.
He came in after work. He took a shower. He looked at the table and said, “I have to go to my girlfriends house. She’s 16 and pregnant and needs me more than you do.”
A couple of months later, he found my truck parked in the parking lot of my work and drove it through the front doors.